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13 Nov 2016

Jewish learning
Probably the most important concepts the Jewish people has had around the world, the other containing elevated and civilized humanity, is �V�ahavta l�reyacha kamocha - So you shall love your neighbor as yourself� (Vayikra 19:18).

Torah
A noble goal, yes, but wait, how realistic can it be?

Yet, one cannot help but wonder how different the entire world will be if everyone truly loved others as they loved himself.

We would live in a world without having crime or gossip. People would be more charitable and considerate. Happiness, goodness and gratitude would reign! People would feel more linked to each other - and loved.

The reason it is a difficult goal is simply because most of us don�t know very well what it indicates to love others.

Reb David of Levlov once told his disciples he had learned the extent you have to love others by overhearing a discussion of straightforward peasants.


One of them suddenly asked his friend: �Do you're keen on me?� �I adore you greatly,� replied the friend. �Do do you know what We need?� asked the friend. �How may i know what you will need?� asked one other. �Then your love isn't really a true friend, for in case you really loved me, you'd surely know our needs and troubles.�

It�s a fascinating idea, that love is illustrated by understanding another�s needs. We have heard often from Rabbi Noah Orlowek the concept of love is what is important to you is very important in my experience.

As a husband and father, I often contemplate the requirements of my partner and youngsters. Being a community rabbi, there are lots of times I look around the shul during davening, and pray for that needs of men and women within the room. Yet, I often wonder, must i figure out what everyone needs? I understand what some people inform me they require, but often we believe we want something, along with the Almighty includes a different idea.

An understanding into how to love others comes from a story that became of me over two decades ago. Before I got married, Specialists our rabbeim for information on the way to have a very great marriage. Some of those conversations made indelible impression on me.

The rav told me: �Yitz, I want you to know you are a selfish animal. You will always be a selfish animal. It�s not your fault; it�s just how G-d created you. All you can do would be to commence to incorporate your wife within your meaning of self. Then incorporate your children, after that your community, and eventually the complete Jewish people. By expanding your concept of self to include others, you won�t be swimming upstream when the time comes to manage others� needs. Really, you may be handling your own needs, that's natural for everyone.�

Another part of finding out how to increase our love of others is by with the definition of love as articulated by my rebbe, Rabbi Noah Weinberg zt�l. �Love,� he was quoted saying, �is when one identifies and appreciates the virtues in another.� Greater we target what exactly is special with regards to a person, the more we love to him or her.

Once I was at a conference with other rabbis. We had been split up into categories of five. Two different people in every single group knew one another well; a couple knew one another superficially for quite a while; there was one individual from the group whom there were all just met. Our assignment ended up being to take part in the Love Game.

The item with the game was for each people to identify important in each an associate the viewers, then share it with everyone. You have to were asked, �Were you able to identify a virtue in everybody in the group?� A better solution was obviously a resounding �Yes!�

The purpose of the exercise would have been to illustrate that just as that one could identify virtues in someone you have noted for years, you can also identify virtues in someone you only met.

Imagine a world where each time a person interacted with another, he or she would identify something special for the reason that person. Picture your global through which people would recognize another person�s needs and treat her or him in terms he or she dreamed of being treated. That would be your global truly filled with happier, kinder people and far goodness.

When the Torah says, �Love your neighbor as yourself,� it's not at all an indicator. It is just a mitzvah, an obligation. In the same way a loving father does not command his son to behave beyond his reach, master won't command us to do the impossible.


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